Monday, April 21, 2008
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
YOUR questions: answered!
Why does it hurt more for some girls than others? If it does feel like someone's shoving a huge sandpapery rod up my vagina. Is there something wrong with me? Or how many times do I have to do it before it stops hurting so much? I've probably had sex less than 15 times.
Well, for starters, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. It might be a challenge of size compatibility. Each person is built differently. We would encourage more foreplay to naturally lubricate and to allow you to explore your partner's genitalia, as well as allow you time to expore your own. Also try using personal lubricant to facilitate movement (and hopefully less sandpapery-ness).
Well, for starters, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. It might be a challenge of size compatibility. Each person is built differently. We would encourage more foreplay to naturally lubricate and to allow you to explore your partner's genitalia, as well as allow you time to expore your own. Also try using personal lubricant to facilitate movement (and hopefully less sandpapery-ness).
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
No Butt's About It
Wrap your minds around this: Is anal sex, sex?
Is sex limited to vaginal intercourse? If not, is anal sex a legitimate way to abstain? What separates a virgin from a non-virgin? Why exactly does or doesn't anal sex "count"? If anal sex isn't "sex" then is it just foreplay? What type of person has anal sex? What type of couple has anal sex? Let me know what you think!
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
CELIBACY POLL
Above you will find a brand-new poll for all you readers! Don't worry, it's anonymous. Here are some terms for you, just in case the answer choices seem confusing to you:
voluntary celibacy: voluntarily choosing to abstain from sexual activity. This can range from abstaining from penetrative sexual intercourse (including oral sex) to choosing not to have any physical contact with those to whom you are sexually attracted. It can also include abstaining from masturbation.
involuntary celibacy: abstaining from sexual activity due to the inability to initiate and/or sustain a sexual or romantic relationship.
asexuality: "An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are." Visit www.asexuality.org for more information.
these definitions express just one perspective of a wide range of viewpoints concerning celibacy and the attitudes and actions surrounding it. Come to SexFest next Wednesday, April 16 to check out my table with tons of information regarding the choice of celibacy!
~ LA
voluntary celibacy: voluntarily choosing to abstain from sexual activity. This can range from abstaining from penetrative sexual intercourse (including oral sex) to choosing not to have any physical contact with those to whom you are sexually attracted. It can also include abstaining from masturbation.
involuntary celibacy: abstaining from sexual activity due to the inability to initiate and/or sustain a sexual or romantic relationship.
asexuality: "An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are." Visit www.asexuality.org for more information.
these definitions express just one perspective of a wide range of viewpoints concerning celibacy and the attitudes and actions surrounding it. Come to SexFest next Wednesday, April 16 to check out my table with tons of information regarding the choice of celibacy!
~ LA
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
our first question!
Why hello fair readers,
We've got our first question! A William and Mary student sent the following:
"As far as outdoor sex, what kind of dangers does one face in terms of grass, dirt, sand on/in the genitals? How can you prevent infections or general discomfort?"
- A good question. I will try and answer based on personal experience, then leave the rest to our resident "Location" expert and some helpful links I found regarding sex in the outdoors.
As far as sex in any outdoor location goes, one must be sure to watch for passersby who may be in the area where you choose to play around; always make sure you are in an area where unwelcome others are far enough away to leave you at peace. As for the other dangers facing those who enjoy sex outdoors, I can only really speak for beach romps--it is very important that you bring some sort of blanket and/or towel to prevent chafing from excessive sand! Be warned that while it is very sexy to fool around with the sound of the ocean all around and the sand in your toes, you WILL get sandy--in your hair, all over your body, you name it, there will be sand. Additionally, you should make sure that if you are using a condom (and I hope that you are!), you should be very careful not to get sand in and/or on the condom and the area that is being penetrated. It is strongly recommended that in between each sexual act (for example, transitioning from oral sex to anal or vaginal sex) that you clean up around your genital area in order to prevent infection. This is especially important when you are having sex outdoors. Bring along some baby wipes or at least some tissues to keep clean in between.
Additional tips coming soon!
Here are some interesting links regarding outdoor sex:
Sex in the Woods
Sex in the Outdoors: the BOOK!
SuperHotSex: a book with outdoor sex tips (and ways to recreate it indoors!)
We've got our first question! A William and Mary student sent the following:
"As far as outdoor sex, what kind of dangers does one face in terms of grass, dirt, sand on/in the genitals? How can you prevent infections or general discomfort?"
- A good question. I will try and answer based on personal experience, then leave the rest to our resident "Location" expert and some helpful links I found regarding sex in the outdoors.
As far as sex in any outdoor location goes, one must be sure to watch for passersby who may be in the area where you choose to play around; always make sure you are in an area where unwelcome others are far enough away to leave you at peace. As for the other dangers facing those who enjoy sex outdoors, I can only really speak for beach romps--it is very important that you bring some sort of blanket and/or towel to prevent chafing from excessive sand! Be warned that while it is very sexy to fool around with the sound of the ocean all around and the sand in your toes, you WILL get sandy--in your hair, all over your body, you name it, there will be sand. Additionally, you should make sure that if you are using a condom (and I hope that you are!), you should be very careful not to get sand in and/or on the condom and the area that is being penetrated. It is strongly recommended that in between each sexual act (for example, transitioning from oral sex to anal or vaginal sex) that you clean up around your genital area in order to prevent infection. This is especially important when you are having sex outdoors. Bring along some baby wipes or at least some tissues to keep clean in between.
Additional tips coming soon!
Here are some interesting links regarding outdoor sex:
Sex in the Woods
Sex in the Outdoors: the BOOK!
SuperHotSex: a book with outdoor sex tips (and ways to recreate it indoors!)
Friday, March 14, 2008
Welcome!
Welcome! Like that fabulous grrl The Statue of Liberty says, "'give us your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free." We just wanted to add: give us your curiousity!
We're here to talk sex and sexuality in a safe, anonymous environment that empahsizes open, honest communication. As part of our mission, we want to bring to light all kinds of sex: outdoor sex, masturbation, SM (that's slang for "sadomasochism"), and, yes, even virginity! This blog and our associated event, "I don't have a F*cking Clue: A Sex Fest at William and Mary" aims at deconstructing oppressive powers that silence YOU talking about the fun stuff YOU do behind closed doors (and sometimes out on the grass). By encouraging communication, we hope to challenge an oppressive power imbalance and shift "traditional" understandings of sexuality to include things people think aren't normal. Trust us, there's a lot out that ain't so "normal."
Send us your questions via our E-Mail address: sexfest2008@gmail.com. And we'll answer 'em. We look forward to hearing from you.
Much love, health, and orgasms,
Your SexFest Organizers
We're here to talk sex and sexuality in a safe, anonymous environment that empahsizes open, honest communication. As part of our mission, we want to bring to light all kinds of sex: outdoor sex, masturbation, SM (that's slang for "sadomasochism"), and, yes, even virginity! This blog and our associated event, "I don't have a F*cking Clue: A Sex Fest at William and Mary" aims at deconstructing oppressive powers that silence YOU talking about the fun stuff YOU do behind closed doors (and sometimes out on the grass). By encouraging communication, we hope to challenge an oppressive power imbalance and shift "traditional" understandings of sexuality to include things people think aren't normal. Trust us, there's a lot out that ain't so "normal."
Send us your questions via our E-Mail address: sexfest2008@gmail.com. And we'll answer 'em. We look forward to hearing from you.
Much love, health, and orgasms,
Your SexFest Organizers
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